well i found the problem......long story, but here it is...
got off work today and immidiately put my car in the garage, took out the pump, put on the correct sock that came with it, made sure clamps were all tight on the fuel lines. took it for a drive, no change.....put it back in the garage, changed the fuel filter, and took out all the plugs, the diodes were worn down a bit (ngk v power plugs), 1 and 2 hardly had the v in them at all(even though i just changed them less than a year ago) the gaps were way off on all of them, cylinders 1 and 2 (the ones that misfired) were gaped at like .40-.45 and 3 and 4 were gapped at like 35. i must not have checked the gaps when i put them in last time......so i put new plugs in anyway, and made sure gaps were correct, took it out for another drive.........same thing, misfiring after 4000 rpm, but then as soon as i hit 4000 rpm its like i hit a brick wall, the car actually slowed down it was bogging so bad.........put it back in the garage, put in the oem fuel pump and sock and took it for a drive again......same thing.......put it back in the garage, opened the hood and stared at it for like 20 mins(not happy at this point lol)....so i was looking at the intercooler pipe from the throttle body to the intercooler, it is the one that came with the car, because when i ordered all the parts, that hose never came(still havent got it btw) i poked it with my finger and it wiggled, so i checked the clamp, and is was loose, the hose was actually off of the intercooler a little bit on the bottom. so i pulled off the intercooler to make sure the bolts and clamps were all tight under it, bolts and clamps were all loose, tightened them all up, went to advance and got a new hose(the one on there was really soft cracked a bit, put the intercooler back on and tightened everything back up and took it for a ride.......SUCCESS..car runs great now, no cel, no misfire..........musta been just coinsidence that this happened rite after i put in the new pump, given it was a week after the injector/turbo/intercooler install, i suppolse everything lossened up with the heat and vibration, idk why i didnt think about that befor....but now i have the oem pump back in, but it will stay there for a few days i think
sory for the book of a post, but thanks for your advice, and tryin to help me figure all this out.